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But why?
It probably boils down to the simple fact that different people have different sexual needs. One of the biggest mistake people make is believing everybody can be pleased the same way in bed. Probably a lot of guys have some lame teenage experience where it's all they can do to get it in the frickin' hole, and surprise! the girl digs that (or pretends to), so they figure they're now the greatest lover ever - and spend the rest of their lives jackhammering away at whatever warm, moist, concave opening that presents itself and possibly being just one of many possible causes for the problem.
Beyond that, I would imagine educated women in particular often need something a little more to really get off. As nice as the physicality can be, the mental side of sex seems just as important. You have to set the right mood, find the right psychological buttons to press, get her as worked up mentally as you are physically, etc. You just have to know what levers to hit with the girl you're with and take the time to figure it out..
All it takes to change those sessions of chafing frustration and anxiety into a satisfying experience is a "That feels good but you need to move that over a bit" or a "Let's do this for awhile, I'm not quite ready for that."
Other useful commands include "Slow down" "Speed up" "Not so hard, I'm sensitive today" and "Harder/More."
I just don't see how that has anything to do with having a PhD or having dropped out of middle school unless that just corellates with sexual experience.
I can see one biological reason why overweight women may have a loss of sex drive. Men and women both have testosterone in their bodies. Men, of course, have much higher levels. Testosterone affects sex drive. In overweight women, the heavier they are, the more estrogen their body produces. Weight also causes stress on the adrenal and metabolic system which in turn can cause problems with testosterone and progesterone levels. So basically, the hormone levels get too high and/or too low so it affects sex drive (among other things). So if you are overweight and your sex drive sucks. Maybe this plays a factor in it.
Same would be the same for men. Men also have estrogen in their bodies (at much lower levels than women). If you are a man and overweight, elevated estrogen levels can kill your sex drive as well.
Of course getting away from the biological issue maybe what the study really found was that more intelligent/educated women will be candid about sexual issues than less educated ones... most obvious reason for the findings, no?
I also think that a lot of well educated women, and men for that matter, have bought in to the idea of study hard, work hard, eyes on the prize, be good, and you'll succeed. Part of buying in to that is: sex is dangerous and it could hurt your future. You could get pregnant or a disease and that might hurt your career. Not only could a disease hurt your career, there's the possibility of contracting HIV and dying. What good is a wild night in the sack if you end up dying as a result? Same goes with getting pregnant. Would one night of careless animal passion be worth 9 months of pregnancy and 18 years of parenting or a traumatic abortion?
Between that baggage and a 50 hour work week at a white collar job it's hard to take it easy and get your groove on.
I know many intelligent/educated women who worry about anything and everything, so I don't really believe that it is directly linked to low sex drive, but I do believe it is linked to being distracted and if you're distracted it will certainly take a lot longer to achieve the end result..
These women who can't get orgasms might decide to spend their time doing something else, which might include more studying (since a lot of women come of sexual age during school years), so the less-orgasmic women spend their time learning more and becoming more intelligent. The more-orgasmic women spend their time partying and getting laid. So women with low sex drives do better in school since they don't have any distractions?
The study also says that women who are on oral contraceptives tend to have lower sex drives. I'm guessing the women with higher educations are also more likely to use oral contraceptives. Heck you could also probably blame it on these women being probably more likely to take anti-depressants which would also curb their sexual appetite.
Of course maybe this study is total shit!
The survey question that seems to cover the sexual desire issue is this one:
"My sexual desire is often much lower than I would like it to be."
And given that educated women had a higher-than-average rate of answering "yes", the conclusion drawn was:
Women who are educated, married or heavy are more likely to have low sex drives.
And so I take issue with the conclusion. The survey did not actual quantify anyone's sex drive. It merely asked for women's assessment of their sex drives. And so there are actually two ways to take the results concerning educated women -- either they actually have lower sex drives than the average woman, or they desire a higher sex drive than the average woman.
All we can say for sure is that educated women are less satisfied with their sex drives, because that's all the survey asked.
It's like doing a survey and asking women if they are happy with how they look, and if educated women are less happy, concluding that educated women are uglier than uneducated women. Whereas actual appearances weren't tested -- just personal opinions.
Now, perhaps the researchers DO view the results this way. One researcher says: "It may well be that highly educated women are different from less-educated women in many respects. Maybe they have higher standards . . . higher expectations
and legitimately lower evaluations." And so perhaps it's just the article that botches the conclusion.
Of course, maybe I've put too much energy into this examination of these women's anorgasmic inclinations (it's turned into a damn essay!). I mean I still wonder from time to time if most women (hell people) know where the G-spot is afterall.
Oh yeah! I welcome comments of any kind since I can obviosly only see this from one side of the debate.
"Fifty percent of the women in this country are not having orgasms. If that were true of the male population, it would be declared a national emergency." -Margo St. James
"When a woman has scholarly inclinations, there is usually something wrongwith her sexually." –Nietzsche
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